oprah wrote something about men...

Oprah wrote this about men...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. - it's true!
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. – always give him the benefit of the doubt -

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. – always have proof

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. - that's right

Slower is better. - yeah, sometimes

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. - true.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. – add “for less”

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. – everybody is innocent until proven guilty

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. - that's right

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. - yeah, don't cut social network, we can be strict sometimes but it's perfectly fine that you also have fun sometimes with your friends

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up. - but not so loud

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. – why not?

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. - true

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man. – a lot of men are worth trusting

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. – refer to the line that speaks about “completeness”

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

legend: the italized lines are some of the comments i solicited from male friends

frustrated...disgusted

i came over this case about a certain justice employee who experienced harrassment and sexual abuse by an infamous lawyer-media man. the woman submitted an affidavit discussing everything - how it all happened, what really happened, etc, and i was able to read them all. it was really disgusting and it violated the woman. the man was sick. because, he had let her do the unusual acts - those maniac masochist pig want to watch on porn dvds. yucky!!!

then, the woman held a presscon presenting her affidavit - i learned almost all media outfits covered the event but it did not come out to any of them. why?

i heard from one senior colleague that the woman has every opportunity to defend herself considering she holds a key and powerful position - but she did not. the woman reasoned out that, she had let it happen because she loves the sick man and 'she admires his intelligence' - ridiculous but maybe true.

apart from the emotional weakness that she manifested, i believe it's not fair to say that because she held such key position, or that she is a grown up career woman, she's no longer capable of being abused.

it is frustrating to know how the society treats this kind of issue.

to be continued..................

TAGGED

LET'S PLAY TAG!

Four jobs you have had in your life:
1. newsdesk administrator
2. writer/reporter for IT
3. technical writer/researcher for a women's NGO
4. scanned newspapers for the Jaime V. Ongpin Journalism Awards (raket while in college)

Four movies you would watch over and over:
1. Chungking Express
2. Moulin Rouge
3. Sassy girl
4. Il Mare

Four places you have lived in:
1. Quezon City
2. Naga City
3. Daet
4. Libmanan

Four TV shows you love to watch:
1. The O.C.
2. CSI
3. the defunct drama series Felicity (all time fave)
4. Charmed

Four places you have been on vacation:
1. Puerto Galera recently
2. Mindanao (Zamboanga City, Cagayan de Oro, Butuan City)
3. Visayas (Iloilo, Bacolod, Guimaras)
4. Northern Luzon (Baguio, La Union, Vigan, Ilocos)

Four websites I visit daily:
1. my blog
2. www.google.com
3. www.inq7.net
4. www.gmail.com

Four of my favorite foods:
1. California maki/temaki
2. sushi
3. chocolate
4. Vegetarian tofu kebab

Four places I would rather be right now:

1. on a white beach, swimming and snorkling
2. in Paris, watching the night lights
3. at home, in my room
4. newsroom workstation (kahapon pa ko rito eh.)

Seven friends who I have tagged that I think will respond
1. Crina
2. Jtee
3. Irise
4. Lawrence
5. Mitch
6. Elvin
7. Gladys

continuation on da vinci code

there it goes, the priest who claimed to have read da vinci code is convinced that the movie is a threat to the catholic faith. however he also believed that 'da vinci code' is fiction, and yet he encourages all the people present at the mass that they should do something to fight this kind of challenge. he further suggest not to watch the movie by telling everyone that he himself will not watch it.

i am sadden how they imposed their views on people as if their views is the ultimate truth. i believe that people can make up their own mind and a mere movie will not tarnish one's faith that one grows up with all his/her life.

i just wonder what other members of the church is afraid of? they seem so defensive especially on this matter, why is that? so what if it's true or not? i don't think it will shaken one's faith.

da vinci code

can't get over this da vinci code fever - in as much as I didn't want to join in this fuss about that matter, i happen to hear mass 16 hours ago and the priest's sermon was about da vinci code...to be continued

zap pan the hah

nab bee buzz zet a co sum wall
lung went tongue the oh

mass sum a see lung la hot
mass key mug ging ma boot tea suck can nil a

pear o see see cup pin co par ring
wag mug pa dull a suck cast sum ma an

cast see say young lung oh rasp co

puerto galera galore

the escape from reality was a great help to erase temporarily my qualms and angst - it gave room to my exhausted being. it gave me room to breathe and meditate on myself - how am i now? am i still happy?

but one thing is for sure - i am still empty. i can't even remember the time i felt that good when we went to puerto. maybe i needed a break. maybe we all needed a break.