oprah wrote something about men...

Oprah wrote this about men...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. - it's true!
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. – always give him the benefit of the doubt -

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. – always have proof

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. - that's right

Slower is better. - yeah, sometimes

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. - true.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. – add “for less”

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. – everybody is innocent until proven guilty

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. - that's right

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. - yeah, don't cut social network, we can be strict sometimes but it's perfectly fine that you also have fun sometimes with your friends

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up. - but not so loud

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. – why not?

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. - true

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man. – a lot of men are worth trusting

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. – refer to the line that speaks about “completeness”

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

legend: the italized lines are some of the comments i solicited from male friends